Have you mastered the art of you?
We are living in an era of unprecedented disruption.
Our relationship with change is vital to our success in modern work and life.
If I were a betting man, the only thing I'd put money on regarding our future, is that sometime soon everything we've worked for will be thrown into question by something out of our control.
Maybe we run into someone we haven't seen in years. Someone we used to know who is visibly excited about their new career opportunities. This spontaneous interaction disturbs something deep within us and it's now harder than ever to keep towing the company line.
Or maybe while spring cleaning the study, we find a bunch of old journals from when we were young. After reading a few pages, we soon discover the dreams we had for life look a whole lot different to what we're living.
Or maybe someone we love has just been told their health is not what it was and will never be again. All the someday, one-day wants we've had crystallise at once. The fragility and impermanence of our lives has never been clearer and yet we're paralysed by all the potential possibilities.
When we hit a transition point and change is the only way forward, how do we know we're making the right choices? Where do we find the courage to leave what was in search of what could be? And what do we tell the people around us?
The key to any smooth transition in career or life is to rebuild our relationship with ourselves. To listen for, engage with and act upon our own unique expression of the truth. All the answers we seek are already speaking, we've just forgotten how to hear them.
Unfortunately, much of the self-help industry has damaged our view of personal or career development. Many of us are cynical of the self-proclaimed gurus and their tasteless prescriptions for mindfulness or meditation.
But unless you actively participate in your own progress; unless you get interested in who you are and why, you'll never know what you're capable of or what Is standing in the way.
Here are my 3 cents on how to start a conversation with yourself about yourself.
1 - Make room for space. Unless you carve out a minute, an hour or a day every now and then, there ain't no way you'll change. As time rolls on your life might look, sound or feel different, but it's just the same stuff wrapped in a different package. In the same way you make time for others, make time for work, or make time for shitty TV, make time for you. Quiet, quality time whatever that looks like.
2 - Stop looking, start noticing. I wrote about this in my last blog post. When you look for something there is an agenda, you're hoping to find an outcome. When you notice things you're just present, curious, deepening your awareness of what's around and within you. This is the gateway to hearing your deeper self and learning your deeper desires. Just notice how you feel about the unfurling world around you.
3 - You gotta give it up to turn it loose. Who f@#king cares what your people think. You don't have to tell them that you've bought a book about desire. They don't have to know you're speaking to a life coach. It's none of their f@#king business if you keep a journal about your feelings. It's your life, not theirs. And you've only got one of them. And if you're not strutting enough, then get over it, get responsible and take some action.
Just don't let anyone or anything stand in the way of you returning to your truth. We need you to find it, own and express it just as much as you do. You have Art in you that will change us!
And remember that finding yourself, getting clear about who you are and what you want in life is not the end...it's only the beginning!